Sexual Violence in Relationships with Family & Friends

Sexual Violence is hurtful and traumatic in any form for anyone who experiences it, but it’s most damaging when it’s someone we know. 75% of sexual violent acts are committed by someone the victim knows.

Here are some quick definitions for SV acts where the victim knows his/her perpetrator.


This is sexual contact between persons who are closely related (e.g., parents and children, uncles/aunts and nieces/nephews, etc.). This usually takes the form of an older family member sexually abusing a child or adolescent. Incest can also be intergenerational (from one generation to another).
(Borrowed from RAINN)

Intrafamilial Sexual Violence:

This is a very common form of sexual abuse that occurs within the family. In this form of abuse, a family member involves a child in (or exposes a child to) sexual behaviors or activities. The “family member” may not be a blood relative, but could be someone who is considered “part of the family,”such as a godparent or very close friend.  
(Borrowed from the The National Traumatic Stress Network)

Acquaintance Rape:

This is when somebody a teen knows—a boyfriend or girlfriend, a friend, a classmate, or even someone they just met—uses coercion (including drugs or alcohol), violence, or threats to force unwanted oral, vaginal, or anal sex. When this happens in a dating relationship, it is commonly known as “date rape.”

Getting Help

Sex Abuse Treatment Center (SATC)

24-hour Hotline: (808) 524-7273

Domestic Violence Action Center (DVAC)

Oahu Teen Alert Program Helpline: (808) 531-3771
Neighbor Islands Teen Alert Program Hotline: (800) 690-6200

If you have an Emergency, please call 911.

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