Did you know that children exposed to family violence are at a greater risk of having serious adult health problems including tobacco use, substance abuse, obesity, cancer, heart disease, depression and a higher risk for unintended pregnancy?
The odd slap? An abusive threat? Sex when you don't want it? Or a life threatening attack? All of these. Domestic violence is "the intentional and persistent physical, emotional or psychological abuse of anyone in the home in a way that causes pain, distress or injury". Young people are affected not only by directly witnessing abuse, but also by living in an environment where someone - usually the main caregiver - is being repeatedly victimized. Young people in a home where someone is being abused are also at greater risk of being abused themselves, or being used to control either of their parents. Due to their own lack of self-worth the abusive partner feels the need to control all those to whom they consider themselves superior to. In a family this includes children.
Young people witness violence in the home in a number of different ways. They may see or hear the abusive episode, be used or even involved in the violence, will experience the aftermath, and sense the tension in the build-up to the abuse. Even when the parents believed the young person was unaware of what was happening, the young person can often give detailed accounts of the events. As well as the physical violence often found in abusive relationships, the young person will almost certainly be subjected to frequent emotional abuse of the mother in the form of name-calling, accusations and threats made by the abuser in their presence. As mentioned above where the wife/partner is being abused, the children are also likely to be abused themselves. This is most true of emotional abuse, where the young persons own self-esteem is battered by being shouted at, told they are stupid or are not trying hard enough, or given mixed messages by being favoured one moment and put down the next. Quite apart from possible physical involvement or direct abuse, these emotionally damaging actions have a detrimental and often long-lasting effect on the young person.
Emotional problems: crying, anxiety and sadness, confusion, anger (which can be directed toward either parent or other children etc.), depression, suicidal behavior, nightmares, fears and phobias. Behavioral problems: aggression, becoming troublesome at home or school, withdrawing into or isolating themselves and lower academic achievements. Physical problems: bed-wetting, nervous ticks, headaches or stomach aches, nausea or vomiting eating disorders and insomnia. Other children will often hold themselves responsible for the abuse, especially where extreme violence has been an issue. Children living in an abusive environment may also condone violence or the threat of violence to resolve conflict in relationships.
This information was borrowed from the Heads Away Just Say project.